Tuesday’s Tip: Take a Retirement Quiz – Part 2

In Part 1, I posed the question “Are you ready for retirement?” If you’re like me, you answered “YES!” right away. But it’s really kind of a trick question. More of a 2-part math problem to solve. First, ‘do you have enough money’? Hopefully you’ve had a chance to visit the website I mentioned to find out the answer. Second, ‘do you know how to make it last’? A much tougher question, which I’ll address today.

Let’s begin by talking about how long retirement will last. No, we can’t predict it, but we have to start somewhere, so let’s say it’ll last 30 years. Based on that, many financial planners suggest following the “4 percent rule”. According to Gail MarksJarvis, it “refers to how much you can afford to remove from your savings each year . . . and avoid the risk of running out of money”. Here’s the basic idea: you take out (use) 4% of your savings the first year, then adjust the next year based on expenses, inflation, and general cost of living. For example, if you have $500,000 saved up, you’d use $20,000 that first year, then take a look at your finances and decide how to proceed. Do you need a bit more? Could you do with less?

Be careful about taking more, though, says Gail. Taking 5-6% per year could spell disaster later on, and yet 16% of the retired people who took that original quiz said they thought they’d be safe taking 6-8%. Chances are they’d run out of money. Not good.

There are steps you can take to help ease the uncertainty of making your money last. First, don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Bill Bengen, creator of the “4 percent rule”, says a more diverse portfolio is best. Invest in stocks and bonds, for example, instead of just one or the other. (And don’t just let it sit in the bank – the return is terrible!) Second, Gail MarksJarvis says that you need to consider how much things will cost. We don’t know exact numbers now, of course, but we can make an educated guess based on current prices. Third, keep in mind the effects of a spouse’s death because that could mean getting reduced Social Security and even the loss of their pension. That will most definitely affect what you can spend. Finally, MarksJarvis suggests waiting until you’re 70 years old before starting to collect Social Security. If you’re healthy and family genes point to a long life, you’ll be better off if you wait.

Of course, in my opinion, good money management is key to making sure you set aside enough throughout your working life to live on during retirement, but also to help you make it last. And I feel it’s never too late to start. Luckily, there’s a book for that.

Tuesday’s Tip: Love is Free

I’m normally not one to openly broadcast the events in my life, but I feel compelled to bend that rule a bit today. I hope you’ll understand . . .

On Sunday October 28, my mom was rushed into emergency surgery to repair a ruptured abdominal aortic aneurism. She surprised everyone by surviving the ordeal and a second surgery the next day to remove a blood clot in her leg. She fought valiantly for a week and a half, but infection and other complications finally proved to be too much for her and she passed away on Wednesday November 7. And just a few days later I had to say goodbye to the most incredible woman I’ve ever known.

When I think of her, I think of all the things that made her who she was. She was patient (tolerant!), kind, and generous beyond belief. She had a wicked sense of humor, an infectious smile that bordered on impish, and a passion for life. She was down-to-earth and had an amazing ability to make everyone around her feel special. She was a dedicated wife to my dad (they were joined at the hip for all of their 54 years together) and she was, of course, a very loving mom to my sister, brother, and me as well as a wonderful grandmother to all eight who called her “Nana”.

I know she loved us not because she told us all the time; I know it because she showed us.

Her love was in all the meals she made from scratch, from spaghetti sauce and cranberries to cinnamon rolls and Julekage. It was in the handmade Halloween costumes, cross stitched gifts for just about every occasion from housewarming to anniversaries, and the knitted caps for babies in impoverished countries around the world. She showed how much she cared by volunteering in the kitchen on Bingo night, stuffing stockings for soldiers overseas, and taking care of the finances for a community organization. She golfed for charity, could answer just about any computer software question you threw at her, coached youth bowling, and brought the best kinds of sweets to the monthly dinner meetings that made the guys get dessert first (just to make sure they got some!). She chaperoned school functions and class parties, and waited up nights until she was sure we got home safely, which also meant punishing us for breaking the rules. She loved us enough to set us free (even though it broke her heart), then welcomed us home without judgment when it didn’t work out. She gently, but firmly, raised us to be considerate, compassionate human beings. She knew when to give us advice, when to hold back, and when to just hold us and let us cry. She hugged her grandkids every chance she got. She quickly recognized people for a job well done. She kept us grounded and humble while, at the same time, lifting us up, supporting us in all our endeavors.

Her love was in everything she did and said. And for that I am truly grateful.

I’ve long since believed (thanks to Mom) that we should let the people we love know that we love them – all the time. Love isn’t something to be saved only for special occasions like birthdays, holidays, or anniversaries. It’s something to be shared on a daily basis, or at least as often as you can, in whatever way that you can. And I don’t mean with gifts and material things – I mean with simple words and actions.

Whose heart doesn’t flutter when her boyfriend tells her how great she looks in those jeans? What guy doesn’t feel special when his wife surprises him with his favorite meal for no reason in particular? How about when a child’s parents tell him how totally proud they are of him just for finishing the race? Or when a friend takes the time to listen to you vent, and does so without judging or advising? Or maybe doing something kind for a complete stranger? Or bringing a meal to someone in need? Or showing up to lend support to a friend?

Our words and actions have a greater impact on others than we realize. There are countless ways we can show our love, concern, and compassion for others. A few take some effort. Most take little effort at all. And yet those “little” things are what people remember the most . . .